Ep. 2:29 Coping with Disappointment, Part I

March 11, 2021 00:45:53
Ep. 2:29 Coping with Disappointment, Part I
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Ep. 2:29 Coping with Disappointment, Part I
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Show Notes

This episode, recorded prior to the pandemic, delves into coping with the inevitable disappointments of the academic life, whether it’s the job, or the grant, or the publication… or the whole career that just didn’t pan out. The first of a two-part series, it introduces six tools for managing disappointment in ways that academia never teaches us. The tools:  1) Face the facts, feel the feelings; 2) You are not a failure and you are not your job; 3) Learn from this experience (ie, process not outcome); 4) Give yourself credit for trying;  5) Refocus on what you DO have and what DOES work;   6) Sharing the experience with (genuine) supporters. Along the way Karen and Kel also talk about white entitlement, concrete ways to ask for feedback, negativity bias, saber-tooth tigers; the scarcity mentality of academia, and Buddhist and Jewish inspirations.

 

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