Ep 3:15 Managing Rejection

March 01, 2022 00:39:41
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Ep 3:15 Managing Rejection
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Karen and Kel talk about coping with rejection, moving beyond the typical advice to “take a break, come back to it later, etc. etc.” (which is good as far as it goes!) to discuss the deeper issues of identity and emotion that rejection triggers. Drawing from an essay by Dr. Gavin Lamb, “4 Reasons Why […]

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