Ep 2:30 Dealing with Disappointment Part II

March 16, 2021 00:38:04
Ep 2:30 Dealing with Disappointment Part II
The Professor Is In
Ep 2:30 Dealing with Disappointment Part II
/

Show Notes

This episode, recorded prior to the pandemic, continues our deep dive into coping with the inevitable disappointments of the academic life, whether it’s the job, or the grant, or the publication… or the whole career that just didn’t pan out. The second of a two-part series, it introduces tools 7-12 for managing disappointment in ways that academia never teaches us. The tools: 7) changing expectations from outcome to process; 8) Take a break 9) Get outside your head and do something for others 10) Find a small step forward 11) Build up self-esteem 12) Recover some energy by connecting with your support team.

Along the way Karen and Kel talk perspective, off-switches, bunnies and their blank, bulbous eyes, and combating perfectionism.

 

[Become a subscribing member for just $3.99 a month and get access to our subscriber only goodies like free webinar recordings, AMAs, the chance to suggest topics, early access to the podcast video that we record in our house in Oregon, and — new from this week – live videos with Karen and Kel on Friday mornings, all on our dedicated podcast member page on Mighty Networks!

Not ready to subscribe? Donate here to send along some support–it goes straight to the production team!]

 

 

Episode Transcript

No transcript available...

Other Episodes

Episode

September 28, 2021 00:35:48
Episode Cover

Ep. 3:3 - Play To Your Strengths

What do you do when you get stuck? Kel has found that her coaching clients tend to devolve into a spiral of self-loathing. But that doesn’t work; it’s just not very motivating! So Kel asks: why does the academy tell us we must automatically be good at every single thing we try in the academic career, and how can we get past that when we find ourselves stuck? Drawing from their newfound love of lap swimming this past summer, Karen and Kel talk about taking an inventory of your strengths and your places needing development, and then learning to use places of strength to explicitly shore up and development the weaker skills. Basically, when you are pushing and pushing and getting no results, draw from a different set of resources. Both resources within yourself, and those offered by external sources of help. [Become a subscribing member for just $3.99 a month and get access to our subscriber only goodies like free webinar recordings, AMAs, the chance to suggest topics, early access to the podcast video that we record in our house in Oregon, and — new from this week – live videos with Karen and Kel on Friday mornings, all on our dedicated podcast member page on Mighty Networks! Not ready to subscribe? Donate here to send along some support.     ...

Listen

Episode

September 23, 2021 00:35:27
Episode Cover

Ep 3:2 The Chair

Karen insisted that we watch The Chair, and insisted we devote a podcast episode to it. So here it is. At this point in time there are no more “hot” takes to be had, so in this episode we offer our tepid takes.  Even so, there is a lot to say. Karen and Kel talk the many painful accuracies of the show: the terror of senior faculty in the face of threats to their power; the overt and covert racism directed at Yaz, the sole Black faculty member; the puritanical dress code and terrible hair; cost-cutting as the department Chair’s #1 job; the Dean’s relentless gaslighting; liability avoidance as the university mission. We note in particular Dr. Chanda Prescod-Weinstein’s point that Yaz is the only character with no interiority – she is rendered as a plot device and never shown, in contrast to all the other main characters, outside a narrow work setting. We have quibbles, inevitably: this Chair could not have been as naive as she was written; no tenured white male professor ever loses his job over racism; and it’s honestly doubtful this Chair would have thrown away her position for a man, least of all this man. Also: are we to believe Yaz turns down Yale to stay at Pembroke? Puleeze. But overall: wow. And suffice to say, as a former Chair of a humanities department, Karen came out of the series fairly traumatized. ...

Listen

Episode

September 14, 2021 00:33:03
Episode Cover

Episode 3:1 Coming Back from Isolation

Karen and Kel are back from their summer hiatus, and they talk re-entry. Re-entry, that is, to a shitshow academic year in a pandemic that, in the US, has been mismanaged to a degree that almost defies belief.  Academics are coming back to campuses that are for the most part totally unprepared and unwilling to deal with actual student and staff vulnerabilities to COVID-19, and confronting a level of lethal indifference from many administration and students both that has shocked even the most jaded among us (ie, Karen). Drawing from a re-entry model developed by an Australian academic, Karen and Kel talk about ways that administrators can improve re-entry processes, and ways that vulnerable and burnt out faculty and grad students can think about how best to proceed. [Become a subscribing member for just $3.99 a month and get access to our subscriber only goodies like free webinar recordings, AMAs, the chance to suggest topics, early access to the podcast video that we record in our house in Oregon, and — new from this week – live videos with Karen and Kel on Friday mornings, all on our dedicated podcast member page on Mighty Networks! Not ready to subscribe? Donate here to send along some support.   ...

Listen